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A Black Man’s Guide To Therapy . . . Just Do It
I should have begun therapy long before I ever did, but I grew up with the misguided belief it meant I was weak and couldn’t handle the rollercoaster of this life like a man should be able to. I was foolish. With the amount of weight I carried, there’s no wonder I eventually fell apart the way I did.
I Don’t Want To Be Here Anymore
The past several years felt like a waste and I didn’t want to lose any more — no more loss of people I love and no more lost time. I had to keep my foot on the gas 24/7. I didn’t realize it until later, but I was running away from loss. My therapist brought it up. My dad called it out. My mentor reminded me. I was so afraid of facing loss again that I packed my days in an effort to avoid it. When I found myself staring at it again, I hit a wall so hard that placed me in quicksand. The words escaped my lips yet again, “I don’t want to be here anymore.” It felt like I was drowning and I had no idea what to do next.
Don’t Wait To Plant The Seeds
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time to plant one is right now.”
I have been sitting with this quote for the past week now, because it speaks to the growth process and the importance of this moment. We can spend a lot of time worrying about what we failed to do yesterday, but often need to remind ourselves of how much power exists in being present.
You Don’t Have All The Answers
You’re the one.
That’s what I’ve heard all of my life. You’re the one. Can you imagine how frustrating it is when everyone else says that and life is kicking your ass? That’s part of my story. I’m not sharing this to be a braggart or to boast. I’ve heard it over and again. Candidly, it’s one of the many reasons I hid myself from judgement. It can become extremely uncomfortable when others have high expectations of you
Another Day Might Be Too Long
I am not here to tell you everything you’re after comes to you immediately. Instant gratification is not what we’re after, but we can certainly change our lives for the better one day at at time.
You Don’t Have Time To Waste
Someone stated to me in a recent conversation that they believe I’m unwilling to take a break, because I’m afraid to lose something else. The statement caught me off guard, because there is truth to it. Life can be pretty unforgiving and I have been in a space where I wasn’t happy with the results. It’s not fun. Taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture, I’m heavily invested in my growth though.
You Cannot Run Anymore. It’s Time To Answer The Call…
One promise I made to myself is to continue learning and this year has been full of lessons. At the top of the list is . . . life comes at you fast. I stumbled upon a masterclass in resilience and I continue to gain more insight on the topic every day. Although I cannot go as far as saying the lessons have been fun, it is abundantly clear to me the experiences serve a greater purpose. I have been unknowingly preparing for this moment my entire life.